Frequently Asked Questions About Me

Insemination has to be well timed to have much chance of succeeding. Accordingly, I require recipients to share ovulation testing with me and schedule inseminations according to how those tests develop. I DO NOT DONATE TO A CALENDAR. If you are not close to peak than it is just not likely to work, and a waste of both our time and energy. Some ladies use apps to guestimate, but these are quite unreliable, so I insist on actual ovulation tests. You don't need anything fancy, cheap paper strips such as the easy@home brand available on amazon, walmart, or any pharmacy, will do just fine.

Yes I have donated before and have many successes.

I am a normal looking white guy. I am average height (5'10) with black curly hair and blue/green eyes. I have O+ blood.

I only do AI (artificial insemination), either in person or via shipping. I never do NI (sex) or PI (quick sex). I will give you a fresh sample, probably preloaded in a syringe or lube launcher. I will not donate directly into a soft cup unless we do the exchange in a hotel room because I think the risk of spilling it is too high.  

I generally prefer to meet up in a public place and do the handoff there. If I am in-town, it will normally be a big-box store parking lot. I'll produce the sample in my car and then you should use it asap in your car or the store bathroom. 

I do not feel comfortable meeting at either your nor my actual residence. If you want to get a hotel room that's fine but it isn't a necessary expense. If you do get a hotel, you'll need to vacate the room while I produce sample. I will not produce the sample in the bathroom with you in the room itself. I will likely sit at the desk so please don't put anything on it or the chair.

If we meet at an airport I'll produce a sample in a private bathroom and probably give it to you at baggage claim or a parking lot. 

I do not charge for donations. For shipping I currently ask you to reimburse you for the cost of the airline shipment or  Fedex, which is usually $90 depending on where (near big cities are cheaper) and when (saturday more expensive) you are shipping.

I am heterosexual, I like women. NI and PI are difficult to arrange, create too many ways for misunderstandings to occur or for me to contract an STD. While I think my recipients will make wonderful mothers, they are rarely if ever my type :). I think that AI is equally effective to NI if done right. So I don't mix my donating and sex life in any way.

I travel very frequently for work and can often modify trips around recipients schedules, if given proper notice. In particular, I often need to go through major hubs such as Dallas (DFW), Atlanta (ATL), Charlotte (CLT), New York (LGA), Minneapolis (MSP), Denver (DEN, and Orlando (MCO).

I do ship, normally via airline courier services to airports or fedex. Any woman considering shipping, from me or another donor, should understand that shipping less effective than fresh donations. However in some instances it is the only practical way to try, and something beats nothing. I have put A LOT of effort into improving the shipping process, and hopefully that will lead to better success rates.

I will not donate to someone if they use another donor in the same cycle. Alternating donors for different cycles is fine with me, but I don't want to be in a situation where it is unclear who the donor is. If I find that you used another donor in a cycle without clearing it with me first I will not work with you again. 

I require recipients to share ovulation predictor tests to try to effectively time insemination. I also require an agreement giving you all rights and responsibilities for any children. Naturally, I prefer to work with ladies who are nice and try to make things fairly convenient for me. If a recipient is habitually late or rude or lies; I will likely stop working with her. Also if a lady has PCOS or is irregular, we will need to get a fertility clinic involved.

If it is a shipping donation, it is very important that the sample be picked up and used as soon as possible. I will generally ask if you are available at around the time that a sample is expected to be delivered, and whether you can retrieve it. I expect recipients to follow through, pick up and use the sample soon after it is ready. This is especially the case in the typical scenario where it gets delivered close to the expected time. Between producing a sample and going to the fedex, it takes me hours to ship, in addition to the significant cost. If I feel like a recipient is taking too long to retrieve or use the sample, I will stop working with her.

I travel for work most days. Currently I am in the DC area more often than anywhere else. I am often able to work around recipients schedule, but notice is always helpful.

I read an article in the New York Times about how there was a shortage of sperm donors due to the pandemic at  The Sperm Kings Have a Problem: Too Much Demand - The New York Times (nytimes.com) . From prior experience and tests I thought that I would probably be pretty fertile and that it would be a nice thing I could do to help ladies wanting to become mothers.

NO. I will not do any parenting to YOUR child. I have neither the interest nor the capacity for any type of parenting.

It would be nice if you send me a picture periodically or friend me on facebook. Other than that I do not want to have any relationship with you or YOUR child unless they choose to seek me out as an adult. As mentioned above I will not coparent, nor will I have a friend or uncle role.

Yes, if you are interested I can email you my agreement. It gives the mother all rights and responsibilities for raising the child.

No, I test for STDs a few times a year. I don't have any major health problems. I haven't had any parents or grandparents die early. I have had more cavities than I would like and probably should brush my teeth better.

Its roughly 50/50. 

I did a DNA background check and it said it was almost all Eastern European Jewish.

Definitely not.  I only started donating in my 40s so it is unlikely I will have many donor children compared to the more established donors. Also since I travel and ship my successes are not concentrated in any one geographical area. I have become a better donor with practice and it would be both selfish and misguided to artificially limit the number of potential mothers I can help. So I emphatically do not have a cap, will have as many donor children as possible, and honestly think the idea of an artificial limit is stupid. 

It is a big country and it is quite unlikely that two of my donor children would ever interact unknowingly. Even if they did, it wouldn't be the end of the world. It would be the ultimate irony if two of donor children (either mine or from the more prolific long-time donors) fell in love and then had to use a sperm donor to have kids. However, the odds of that happening are vanishingly low.

I work with computers. I went to one of the top Ivy League schools and generally did extremely well in school.

Not really, no. It is almost always pretty business like, very brief, and frankly somewhat awkward. If we meet in person it probably won't take more than 20 seconds.  I'll say something like "make sure to use the sample asap" and the you will say something like "thank you" or "we will". I'm not going to have dinner with you, or meet ahead of time, or play parcheesi.  

I will try to help as much as I can but with my travel and other schedule, and as a free donor, I don't commit to, and rarely give, more than one donation per cycle. If a lady is tracking appropriately, and has a regular cycle, than one donation will quite often be sufficient.

Yes and no. I would be happy to help by providing a donation at a fertility clinic to a lady with these conditions. I have done some research and found some inexpensive Mexican clinics for IVF, and would also contribute $400 to help defray the IVF expenses. But that is the only way I will work with ladies with PCOS or very irregular periods. Not to be harsh but I have never had any success with a lady who does not experience clear surges, and it tends to lead to a huge amount effort and frustration on both ends, with only a remote chance of success. 

I will share anonymous photos documenting success, with their consent. Beyond that, I will not put you in contact with prior recipients unless you first compensate them for their time. Most recipient inquiries go nowhere, and as a free donor, it's not fair to waste the time of my past successes, who are already dealing with being pregnant. The only way I will even attempt to put you in touch with a prior success is if you first agree to compensate her $150 for her time and send me that as a deposit. Please also do not post any questions in the Facebook groups in an attempt to get around this. Doing so is THE surest way to make me not work with you.

Sometimes ladies ask me questions like this. Honestly I think it is kinda silly, because characteristics like these are very unlikely to be heritable. It is as if they are confusing this with normal dating. But if you must know I like to watch sports and movies and keep up with current events.